108 | Intentional Fatherhood & Radical Mentoring (Regi Campbell Revisited)
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Jeff sat down with Regi and recorded this conversation in June of 2019. Originally released as Episode 76, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series.
Regi Campbell
Regi is a serial entrepreneur who has founded 15 companies and has now devoted this phase of his life to creating a mentoring approach that produces incredible leaders and deep discipleship. Last Summer he was leading his 18th mentoring group and he has now personally invested in 144 men and indirectly, in their marriages and families. Here's a list of 6 things that Regi did every day:
- I will walk with Jesus every day
- I will be grateful and live every day to the fullest
- I will bless my family with words, pictures, and videos
- I will invest in “my guys” for their good, God’s glory – not mine
- I will not give up and “run out the clock”
- I will let people love on me!
Conversation Notes:
- 4:40 - “You’re just doing what Jesus did... He handpicked a group of men for a season of time and invested in them”
- 5:25 - “My goal is 5 generations of multiplication. If that happens, more than a million men will have been equipped to manage life better”
- 6:00 - “The only way to leave a legacy is for Jesus to use you to pour into others who have a hunger to pour into others as well”
- 6:50 - Regi shares his goal of investing in mentors who mentors others
- 7:50 - The key to something being sustained is that it must be motivated by selflessness and it must have intentionality
- 8:50 - Anything you care about should have intentionality
- 9:15 - The importance of raising kids who are becoming good adults
- 9:45 - Basic principles of Radical Mentoring
- 10:50 - Make sure that your kids know that you love them
- 11:25 - I realized that I have a perfect Heavenly Father who loves me
- 13:50 - There is always something that you don’t know
- 14:35 - Story about Andy Stanley putting his kids to bed and asking about their heart
- 15:15 - Be firm, but don’t lose track of their heart
- 16:05 - Make time in the morning to connect one-on-one
- 16:30 - The importance of sharing with our kids what is going on in our life if we want them to share with us
- 16:45 - Talking to your kids like they are adults and really connecting with them
- 17:20 - Be a dad who is in your son or daughters presence
- 18:25 - Be careful not to exasperate your children
- Provoke
- Stir up anger
- Do not irritate
- Do not be hard
- 20:50 - The importance of keeping our kids emotional tanks full
- 22:00 - The danger of jumping to conclusions
- 24:45 - The value of a slower pace and limiting activities and a hurried life
- 26:20 - Sadly we don’t have many spiritual mentors and hero’s that we want to be like
- 27:00 - Matthew 28:19-20 The Message (MSG) "Jesus, undeterred, went right ahead and gave his charge: “God authorized and commanded me to commission you: Go out and train everyone you meet, far and near, in this way of life, marking them by baptism in the threefold name: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Then instruct them in the practice of all I have commanded you. I’ll be with you as you do this, day after day after day, right up to the end of the age.”
- 29:20 - Encouraging dads to be intentional and initiate... lead yourself
- 29:35 - You get what you glorify. Whatever you glorify, that’s what your kids will lean into.
- 31:00 Story about intentionality and helping his kids find good friendships
- 34:00 - Curating Your Kids Friends
- 35:30 - Proverbs 24:3-6 "By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures. The wise prevail through great power, and those who have knowledge muster their strength. Surely you need guidance to wage war, and victory is won through many advisers.through wisdom and knowledge it’s filled with treasures"
- Knowledge is just data
- Understanding is context
- Wisdom is taking data and filtering it through context and being wise with decisions
Links:
Regi's WebsiteRadical MentoringMentor Like Jesus and Regi's other books