122 | Slingshot Surrender & Planted Like a Palm Tree (Jordan Durso)
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Jordan Durso
Best known as Marissa Angelique & Isabella’s Dad. Jordan is also the Executive Director of The Legacy Center where they are relentless about moving people forward to achieve their ultimate potential. The Legacy Center fights to see individuals change for life and not just for the moment: To live Life on Purpose; To take every step with intention; To help people create a Legacy that their kids will want to copy. Jordan lives in New York city with his three girls.
Conversation Notes
5:10 - Legacy Center New York - not just meeting physical needs, but meeting relational and family needs
6:45 - “This is what I want my kids to copy from me.”
7:12 - “Is there something I’m doing, God, that I don’t want my kids to copy.”
7:35 - Being the man that I want my girls to marry
8:20 - The stuff we see us do every day - I see my kids copy that stuff.
9:35 - Being intentional with finances with his kids
11:11 - Focus on now
11:50 - dad fail - losing focus on the most important things in travel and work
14:25 - Story of loss and pain of divorce
18:40 - “I don’t believe God makes all things happen but he makes all things good so if I give him my life and I give him my story and my situation I think he can make even this situation good and help people that are going through the same situation.”
19:40 - As I was in this stage feeling of being stuck, I felt like I was being stretched, and not in the good sense at first….all my friends... were passing by...God what about me? And I felt like God spoke to me that I was like this slingshot that he was pulling back and he was stretching me and though everything looked like it was going this way and I was going backwards, it was really preparing to launch me, and the farther back I went and the more I got stretched, the farther I’d go, so I just had to say OK and throw my hands up in surrender.”
21:18 - How to keep our eyes on what’s most important in the stretching seasons. - Make sure you have really good friends to be honest with. Get around guys who are stronger than you. Real brotherhood.
24:04 - Palm trees roots stretch and search deep toward water sources and interlock with other palm trees. Eventually storms will die down. Secure stance, interlock with other people who are going through the same thing sometimes.
26:50 - What are the water sources that would help a dad who is in a storm right now? Accountability, interlocking with others, reading the Bible, reading other great books by people who have also been through hard times.
28:24 - “God did it for him, could God do it for me? Let that question raise up and spark your faith…. Unbelief says some other time, but not now some other place but not here, for somebody else but not me. Faith says anything that he did anywhere else he’s willing to do here, anything he did at any other time he’s willing to do now, and anything he did for anybody else he’ll do for me.” Reading other people’s stories ignites our faith that God will do it for us too.
29:20 - In the business of helping other people get healthy, and I can only do that if I’m healthy.
31:00 - Dad wisdom time machine advice = date your daughters
31:35 - Create memories with your kids... travel with your kids
32:05 - Put your family first. The other stuff is not that important.
32:45 - Reflections on Jordan's father = spending too much time serving at church and missing many of the special moments with his kids.
35:00 - adding the goal of sitting down for dinner and pausing and connecting as a family.
35:55 - Giving the travel planning to your kids. Ask them to make the plans.
37:20 - Learning your kids love languages and speaking that language to them.
38:30 - Jordan's Prayer