134 | Facing the Blitz (Jeff Kemp)
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Jeff Kemp
Jeff is a quarterback for strengthening teams. After his 11-year career in the NFL, Jeff founded and led the Seattle-based national non-profit Stronger Families, dedicated to helping families thrive. As he speaks and coaches throughout the United States, Jeff combines the best from professional team sports with the best of building strong relationships, team alignment and trust to strengthen the business. Jeff and his wife, Stacy, have been married 35 years and mentor young couples. They have four married sons and love tennis, skiing, and spending time with family.
Conversation Notes:
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2:46 - Jeff Kemp - NFL Quarterback3:26 - Book: Facing the Blitz by Jeff Kemp. Three strategies for turning trials to triumphs
7:30 - Blitz - sudden overwhelming bombardment. Great danger and risk, that you might not be able to block extra defenders, could be an injury, but if the offense is prepared and able to adapt and willing to change, you have opportunity. Chinese symbol for crisis is danger and opportunity together.
8:49 - Jesus turned his own blitz around for victory. Lazarus. Joseph. What the enemy meant for evil, God meant for good. That’s a blitz.
10:00 - John 16:33 - NFL version
10:20 - How to get through a blitz: 1) Have a long-term view. 2) Willingness to change. 3) Can’t focus on yourself as a victim, focus on blessing others.
11:10 - In the Covid Blitz - 1) Make time to listen to God like never before. 2) Play with your kids. 3) Ask your wife to rate your relationship and ask what you can do to move it closer to a 10.
13:31 - Story of a dad fail. Blitzed by personal convenience and selfishness.
16:50 - Blitz is an opportunity to apologize and
18:11 - Encouragement is a huge part of being a dad.
18:23 - The Gideon principle - Angel showed up and named him what he was going to become before he was that.
20:09 - “His dad found whatever he could and encouraged it. I know that I am a leader today, I am a speaker, I am a vision-caster, I’m an encourager...because of my dad.”
20:27 - You can’t build your identity around performance.
20:50 - A dad’s job is to build a kid’s identity on 1) relationship with God, 2) relationship with you 3) their character.
21:29 - On The Gideon Principle: “I’m trying to make sure that it’s more about speaking their character and their faith and the security of their relationships both with God and with me, more so than performance...those performance things aren’t as important as a dad as the faith, relationships and their character, speaking who they're going to become, not who they are right now.”
23:18 - Think long-term. “You're raising this kid because God gave him to you as a gift. And your dad-job is stewardship.”
24:41 - “If you act like a steward you’ll do a better job than if you're acting like the owner... you’re raising this kid so they find their way to the perfect daddy.”
26:19 - Think of your kid’s heart like a gas tank.
26:50 - Dad ideas: 1) Keep their love tank filled up. “Our job...is to parent their hearts, not just their behavior. And you can correct their behavior but you can blow them away with how much you love them.” 2) “They need a GPS for life.” 3) Know their identity (Gideon principle)
Conversation Links:
Facing the Blitz: Three Strategies for Turning Trials Into Triumphs