292 | Passing on Advice, Sharing Fatherhood Resources, and Praying for Other Dads (Joe Ostrem, Tyler Van Eps, and Dago Darezzo: Part 2)
Episode Description
In the second part of this campfire conversation, Jeff, Joe, Tyler, and Dago discuss fatherhood models, top resource recommendations, and advice for rookie dads. They conclude with powerful intercessory prayer for other fathers in the DadAwesome community.
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Tyler Van Eps and his wife have four children and describe themselves as a quintessential Minnesota family.
Originally from Brazil, Dago Darezzo and his wife have two sons and enjoy being active as a family.
Joe Ostrem and his wife met as kids and are now parents to four daughters.
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· Learn how to learn from the wisdom of others.
· Pray generational blessings over your children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and beyond.
· Working on yourself and your marriage will make you a better dad.
· Your greatest joys will come from your most challenging responsibilities.
· Plus, top fatherhood resources, books, and apps.
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NEW dadawesome.org website (DM/Text/Email jeff@dadawesome.org with feedback for a free gift - first 20)
Atomic Habits by James Clear
Pray First: The Transformative Power of a Life Built on Prayer by Chris Hodges
Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life by Richard Roar
The Pause App by John Eldredge
“Traction EOS” - Enterprise Operating System
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Podcast Intro: [00:00:01] Being a great father takes a massive amount of courage. Instead of being an amazing leader and a decent dad, I want to be an amazing dad and a decent leader. The oldest dad in the world gave you this assignment, which means you must be ready for it. As a dad, I get on my knees and I fight for my kids. Let us be those dads who stop the generational pass down of trauma. I want encounters with God where He teaches me what to do with my kids. I know I'm going to be an awesome dad because I'm gonna give it my all. [00:00:31][29.6]
Joe Ostrem: [00:00:38] I have lived outside of his house more than I've lived in his house but He's still parenting me and helping to grandparents my kids. And he's praying a prayer that I pray for my kids every night, which is Lord, I pray for my kids, that you'd bless them in generational blessings, that it would be for them, for their kids, for their kids kids and for their kids, kids, kids. So like he prayed that generational prayer over me, every night, and I prayed the same thing over my kids. And it's like a pretty powerful prayer because it's an Abraham prayer. It's like the last kids I'm praying for, I'm probably not going to see. [00:01:22][43.7]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:01:24] This is episode 292 of DadAwesome. Today's the second half of my Campfire Conversation with Joe, Diego and Tyler. So if you missed last week's conversation, episode 291, jump back, that's the set up. It really takes us into, now we're going deep dive into influences, who has really shaped these three men and their fatherhood journey. So we're going to go to that question and then we're actually going to spend some extended time in prayer over, over you guys listening. So this is maybe the it's a different format, but the campfire format was really, I was so impacted by specifically the second half of the conversation. I'm thrilled to share this with you. Of course, we're around a campfire, there's noises in the background. I think we're swatting mosquitoes a little bit. We've minimized most of it, but I wanted to remind you guys that that is the setting for this this this podcast conversation, this is episode 292. And hey, quickly before I jump into it, I want to remind you guys, the new DadAwesome website launched, just over this last week here, DadAwesome.org. Five and a half years into this ministry, we believe this new website will be a resource, a resource, a vault for you to access almost 300 podcast episodes. About, I think we featured 30 different organizations, other fatherhood ministries or organizations, resources. I think there's over 70 books, podcasts, events you can search by that type of resource. There's it's the prayer is that it's helpful for you guys. So check out DadAwesome.org and I mentioned this last week but the first 20 people to send me an email, so simply email jeff@dadwesome.org. You can also text me or Instagram message me if you forget that. Send me a note saying that you checked out the website, let me know what you think, and if anything is confusing, let me know that side or anything is specifically helpful. Let me let me know. Share just a little bit of feedback with me and and then share your mailing address. The first 20 of you to email me, I'm going to send you a gift to say thank you. So we're celebrating, though, with with this new website, very grateful for having this available to all you and for you to share with others as you share DadAwesome and invite new people into our community. So here we go, the second half of the Campfire Conversation, with Tyler, Joe and Dago. I want to head this direction for a moment, it's a name a person that you have learned something from that you're bringing into the dad life. So it could be your dad, it could be a mentor, could be a friend, a peer, a pastor, but a person that you’re like, I learned from that person. And man, I'm thankful for them and this is what I'm putting into kind of my my every day, my rhythms, my priorities in the dad life. So we can go in whatever order, but I'd love to hear if there's a person that you'd say, Man, I'm thankful and I've learned this from them. [00:04:25][180.2]
Dago Darezzo: [00:04:26] I might struggle naming one, so I'm not going to name one. [00:04:29][3.1]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:04:30] Multiple. [00:04:30][0.0]
Dago Darezzo: [00:04:31] No, but just in simple terms, I think my father for sure in one side of the equation, on the foundation and we can get into into more of that, in being a support system. I mean, another honestly, Jeff, is you. Like, just in what what from there is like as you stepped into this ministry, it's for me was learn to learn. So learn to go get wisdom, go listen to these episodes, go listen to other people talk. Go open your ears. So then you can, so you know, you can learn and get wisdom from other people. So I think in the 200 and some episodes you have, not all I've listened to, but the ones I've listened to, there's always, there hasn't been one that I didn't stop and say, Wow, I need to listen to these again. Yeah, so I think those, you definitely inspired me in in the journey and and for sure my my father in in many areas as well. [00:05:33][61.7]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:05:34] Would you take a moment and go into your dad now? I'd just love to hear a little bit more of what's what are some of the ways you said the word foundation, like what are some a, yeah, a few things from him that you've taken away? [00:05:45][10.8]
Dago Darezzo: [00:05:45] Yeah, so and we can definitely talk a more of that, more about that. And it's not a simple topic for me to talk about, but being there, creating a foundation like I'm always here. It doesn't matter what will happen, you have a safe haven that you can, you can come back to. So there was there was part of like the very positive sense that we always felt that we have we have a place to fall back to. So we can go there and we can go take risks and we know, you know, they will, our parents will have our back. So I think that was the most important one for me as a, you know, I've grown, that it's always there. [00:06:27][41.6]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:06:28] Yeah. [00:06:28][0.0]
Dago Darezzo: [00:06:28] And the other thing is when when, at least when, as I reflect, he would, you know, they would parent on the on the on the details and when I would do a big mess up, there would be, no you know, you'll be more, I got your back. It was like you did something wrong. No, no, no, we got your back. [00:06:49][21.3]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:06:50] Yeah. [00:06:50][0.0]
Joe Ostrem: [00:06:50] Mm hmm. [00:06:50][0.1]
Dago Darezzo: [00:06:51] You know. So, yeah those are two things that come to mind. [00:06:53][2.1]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:06:55] Very cool. Thank you. [00:06:56][0.7]
Joe Ostrem: [00:06:57] Yeah, I would say my dad, definitely would be probably the best model. And I tell them this regularly, like I had such a great model to what it looks like to be a dad, you know. He just from even like the pathway that he took in his life, he was like, I'm going to take a job where I can be at every sporting event that my kids are at. I'm going to, you know, make sure that they know that Dad's here for them and that whatever you're into, I'm into that, too. And like, like I've told you before, Jeff, we went to events like we were just talking about a heavy metal concert that he went to over the week, that he went with me over the weekend. He was like, that was that was an experience. And he still talks about how his pants were like just shaking from the bass vibration, you know, and was like, that was an experience. I'm like, you know, honestly, dad, as a 14 year old kid that couldn't drive myself there, that you were willing to take me and my friends to that and sit in the back, going through what I could imagine, torture to himself. [00:08:13][76.1]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:08:13] Yeah. [00:08:13][0.0]
Joe Ostrem: [00:08:14] Just because he's like, Yeah, my son's into this. And like, it's it was a heavy metal Christian band, so, you know, it's not like it's some terrible type of influence that I'm being exposed to. But like, he was willing to do that. He's willing to go to things that he wasn't interested in on his own, but because his kids were interested in that, he was interested. [00:08:38][24.1]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:08:39] Yeah. [00:08:39][0.0]
Joe Ostrem: [00:08:39] Which is pretty awesome. So like, that's helped me a lot, especially, again, parenting all girls and my girls are interested in things that on my own I would not be interested in, but because they're interested in it, I'm interested in it. And so yeah, and I also say like just the way that my dad carries himself as the model citizen in the town that we grew up in. Everybody knows my dad. Everybody would love to talk with him, you know, like just carrying yourself in a community like that as a person of integrity, person that loves the Lord, a person that isn't afraid to talk about that. But also, has a joy to talk about that has been pretty cool. And yeah, I've just taken like so many different things from him. The the one thing, though, that really does stick out from like a spiritual side of things is he would regularly get up, super early and then just go walk, and pray like pray for all of us. And that looks different for everybody, but like him carving out time specifically. And I know, like this morning, he did the same thing. Like, I've been out of the house for 18 years. You know what I mean? When I think about things like that, it's like I have lived outside of his house more than I've lived in his house, but he's still parenting me and helping to grandparent my kids. And he's praying a prayer that I pray for my kids every night, which is Lord, I pray for my kids, that you'd bless them in generational blessings, that it would be for them, for their kids, for their kids kids and for their kids, kids, kids. So like, he prayed that generational prayer over me every night. And I prayed the same thing over my kids. And it's like a pretty powerful prayer because it's an Abraham prayer. It's like the last kids that I'm praying for, I'm probably not going to see. And like, I've already seen the importance of that prayer in my life and how I've turned out. Like 100 percent God has been faithful to that prayer. And so I'm just trying to continue that torch. If we're using like the relay metaphor for the Olympics. [00:11:11][152.1]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:11:12] Sure. The handoff. [00:11:12][0.1]
Joe Ostrem: [00:11:12] Like I'm going to take that and I'm hoping to pass that to my kids. And my kids always are like, Dad, you didn't pray. I didn't hear you pray. Children, children's children, children, children, children. And I'm like, but I did. [00:11:24][11.5]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:11:24] Yes. [00:11:24][0.0]
Joe Ostrem: [00:11:25] You just weren't listening, you know? [00:11:26][1.5]
Joe Ostrem: [00:11:27] That's awesome. [00:11:28][0.4]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:11:29] Pray it again, Dad. Pray it again. [00:11:29][0.1]
Joe Ostrem: [00:11:30] Yeah. So I have to pray it again. Which is awesome, but like, but that for me is at least in the last year has been hitting me so heavy of like how, how much weight that carries. And how important it is for me to really like pray and intercede for my kids, for their kids, and that not one of them would be lost, but that there would be generations of the people of God coming through us. You know what I mean? And and I can barely get through that without, like, crying because it's just so like the weight of eternity and having, like, my family there, when I can't control their lives, but I want them to have that desire for God. Yeah, it's just like it's out of your control. And I think that's the other thing, too, like parenting, my dad had shown, like he gives up the control to the Lord too. Like I can't control other people. Like, you can, you can help guide them and foster that relationship and try and lead them to water, but you can't let them drink. You don't make them drink, right. But just praying that the Lord would would have that happen my Dad's been like huge, I've been so blessed to have that type of father figure, because I don't have a negative outlook with Father God because of that. So and I don't want to be that negative outlook for my kids when they see Father, Father God, they're like, Oh, dad was, you know, this or that. Like, I want that to be like, Oh, yeah, I understand how much God loves me because my dad loved me and does this, so. [00:13:14][103.5]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:13:15] Wow. Wow. The idea of generational, like the power of your kids, your kids kids, your kids, kids, kids thinking that way versus parenting is done at 18 years old, off to college and they restart from scratch, the next generation. Versus thinking and praying with longevity. Like, and even you take money aside and just think the spiritual side of prayers and the blessing and the heart and the pursuing them with your words and but I mean, if you add the other side, which is like thinking about wealth that way, thinking about assets, thinking about how do we like actually be a force for the kingdom without this restart every single generation. It's complete foolishness how the world thinks about it. So I want to jump to you, Tyler. A person, a person. [00:14:01][46.4]
Tyler Van Eps: [00:14:03] I mean, it's my my dad especially, I think Dago and I, you and I have talked about fathers and I think especially, we just celebrated my dad's birthday, and we took him fishing and we got to just kind of honor some of the things that he's meant in our life, but just the endless energy. I remember days coming home and he wouldn't even get like he wouldn't even get changed after work before he'd be throwing us like tennis balls in the driveway and we'd be hammering them across the street and he's chasing them and stuff like that. But yeah, my, my dad just, you know, for, for all the, all the challenges and even just how he modeled, a little bit later, after I'd gone on to college, just bouncing back from pain and bouncing back from like, poor decisions and like he, he just, I think more retrospectively than anything else, got to just watch him in a season of of transformation and stuff. But the other guy that comes to mind, too, when you're talking about this generational perspective is a former boss of mine who just modeled vision and legacy and is still still doing that. But he's just, you know, he's building things, assets, like he's building treehouses, he's building fishing camps, he's building things, and he's inviting his grandkids into like the vision process of that. And he's he's just got these and managing wealth and life insurance like all these just hundred year he he's just he's writing a hundred year vision for his business that he's never going to be around a steward. And he's asking the question of what's it going to take when this business looks completely different in 50, 75, 100 years? Are we going to have the values in our family to still steward it in the in the same way? So that's that's had a huge impact on me is like these hundred year vision type of conversations. [00:15:55][111.9]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:15:56] Wow. So that's I mean, we could go round after round of people, but let's go around of resources, a book, a video series, a just something that you're like, this has been helpful in this journey of it could be the side of being a son of God and like, actually, like experiencing God's love and that identity side. Or it could be the side and maybe more likely, like it's helped you be an intentional dad, a father who's for pursuing the hearts of your kids. Have there been any top of mind books or ministries or resources or retreats, anything that you're like, Yep, you guys need to check these out? [00:16:28][31.8]
Joe Ostrem: [00:16:30] I mean, this is going to sound so non spiritual. [00:16:32][2.2]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:16:33] Do it. [00:16:33][0.2]
Joe Ostrem: [00:16:33] But I just read Atomic Habits. [00:16:35][2.3]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:16:36] Yes. [00:16:36][0.0]
Joe Ostrem: [00:16:37] And it's like, it's so good. It's it's framing your mindset for improvement. And like I said previously, guys are always like, you're not doing good enough. Get better. This is one of those books that's like, Here's how you get better. Like, just write it out. Like, Dago, you were saying, I will, like, I will statements. You add that in there and you carve out 2 minutes. Do whatever the thing is. Be purposeful with that. You know, pray for your kids for 2 minutes. Do like whatever that is. And yeah, it's that along with a couple of other other pieces, you know, like Chris Hodges, Pray First book. Like, that thing is so heavy. Like you said, Dago, going through the the podcast, it was like, I need to stop and just like, marinate on this for a bit because there's so much in here. Pray First, Chris Hodges, that plus Atomic Habits combine is like dynamite. [00:17:40][63.9]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:17:41] I need to go back to Atomic Habits. I bought the journal, I started, I fell off the wagon. So yes, highly, I've heard that recommended so many times. Dago, anything come to mind for resources? [00:17:52][10.8]
Dago Darezzo: [00:17:53] So we've been listening to some episodes in some different podcasts. Richard Rohr, I don't know if you've heard of these, Richard Rohr. And so he was in a Brene Brown podcast and he's just the wisdom, he's, he's you know, late eighties and just the wisdom that he shares. So we bought his book and the journal that he has called Falling Upward. And he's a, yeah, he's just most of the book is over my head from the like grammar, you know, English standpoint. But it's, and Bruna's reading, she's way ahead than I am and she just gets the book and just, I need to read this page to you. And it's so much wisdom and you can, you can it's like so many different ways. It's like parenting wisdom, marriage wisdom. And I truly believe, I really believe that the better our marriage, the better dads we are. At least I've experienced that a lot. So yeah, Richard Rohr has been in my my mind and we've been just slowly reading his book. Yeah, there's a lot there. [00:18:57][64.0]
Joe Ostrem: [00:18:58] You're so right, though. When you said your marriage, the way that that goes, the way your parenting goes. And just as a sidebar, figuring out that, like, the kids shouldn't be the focus, but your marriage should be the focus, and then that kind of trickles into your kids and your parenting is really hard. And so if you're like a new dad and you're like, not still diving into a relationship with your wife and making sure that you're dating. It's like, yeah, the wheels can fall off the parenting bus pretty quick, you know. [00:19:36][37.9]
Dago Darezzo: [00:19:37] Working on yourself and in your marriage will make you a better dad. [00:19:40][2.3]
Joe Ostrem: [00:19:40] Hundred percent. Yeah. [00:19:41][0.6]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:19:42] Can you say that one more time? [00:19:42][0.2]
Dago Darezzo: [00:19:42] Working on yourself and your marriage will make you a better dad. [00:19:45][2.8]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:19:48] Yeah, I feel like marriage counseling, like another round, you know, different things bring on, like, you need to set up a time with the counselor again, for my wife and I. But like just the entering dad life and becoming a new chapter, we're going to spend a lot of money on our kids and on parenting, so spend some on like getting closer and figuring out new levels of depth of intimacy with your wife, it's so good. Yeah. What do you got for us, Tyler? [00:20:19][31.3]
Tyler Van Eps: [00:20:19] Two things. I kind of laughed, Joe, when you said totally un-spiritual, but Traction, EOS. I've been thinking a ton about this lately, as far as just the, I think more than anything, the rhythms that we cultivate as a family and being able to have things that we come back to weekly, monthly, quarterly, annually and stuff like that. So that's something, Shelly actually gave me permission over the weekend to start designing kind of a family operating system based on some of the Traction, EOS stuff. So I've been... [00:20:48][29.1]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:20:48] So, EOS stands for, one more time. [00:20:50][1.1]
Tyler Van Eps: [00:20:50] Enterprise operating system. [00:20:51][1.0]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:20:52] Thank you. [00:20:52][0.0]
Tyler Van Eps: [00:20:52] So but yeah, this is a it's, it's a popular, trendy, like kind of management system out there right now, but it's got some, some really good cadence things. But the other thing, the other one I use in and out of season is John Eldridge's, Pause app. I am, I'm so bad at slowing down. I'm so bad at Sabbath. I, I do good like morning scripture reading but slowing my mind, slowing my heart really being present, especially to my emotions is a tough one. So I'll use that consistently, especially like my kids can wind me up really fast and I just get stressed and I get tense, and I get frustrated and impatient. So yeah, five, ten minute meditation reflection with John Eldridge's Pause app has been a good one for me. [00:21:38][45.8]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:21:38] And he has the Resilience series within that app as well, that's phenomenal. I need to do another round. Michelle and I did two rounds of that. Yeah, cool. So this is an experiment that I have not launched yet, but we talked about it before we all hit record, is helping young dads that are not even able to hold their baby yet. They're, you know, these couples expecting their first baby. And the experiment is if we find an older dad like one of us, it's funny to be described as older dads, right. But I love it. And we got kids, we've got kids now that are in different phases that are not infants. So So to plan a party to help pray over that new dad, give him a gift and give him a couple of words of wisdom. Like that's the concept super easy. And I dream about churches all over the place that's becoming the norm that, hey, two or three times a year they keep an eye out in their kid's ministry and in their baby dedications, and their new families. You kind of get word through the women, usually. The word will come out through the women who's pregnant, right. But the dads look to swoop in and say, hey, I got a campfire pit. We're going to gather, we're going to pray over you. We're going to give you some gifts and by gifts like an ax, you know, something cool, something cool. You know, potentially a symbolic thing of like, hey, this is we're welcoming you into the tribe of being a dad. But the one part about sharing a word of wisdom could be something that you're living out and finding it's helpful or something you gathered or you've heard or you're aspiring to do, of just like, This is dad wisdom. Like, put your marriage first. Like, make sure you you're if your marriage is flourishing, you're going to be a great life giving dad like that's a piece of wisdom already come up. But if you guys were at one of those campfires with new dads, I'd just love to hear one, two, three, like like just we're going to go a little bit bullet point here, what are a few things you'd want to pass on to that that rookie dad in that season of like, hey, welcome, we're praying for you, we're excited for you to hold that baby for the first time. Keep this in mind as a bit of wisdom, a nugget of like encouragement for that young dad. So we can popcorn around what you guys share. [00:23:38][119.6]
Joe Ostrem: [00:23:42] I mean, I would say be aware of your own struggles and how that impacts other people. Be aware of, again, going back to the generational blessing part. There are generational curses that you have to be aware of and break off, you know? So don't be afraid to do that. To battle for your family, battle for your kids, battle for yourself. And and don't give up doing that either. And bring other people into that. You know, like if you have a friend group, utilize them. If you don't, get one. You know what I mean? Like, and the friend group should be in the same stage as you. You know, like, I've had troubles with having friends that maybe weren't in the same stage being a dad or in the same stage of, like, marriage, they're single, you know. It's like you have to find people that are in the same stage as you that you can do life with. Get some mentors that are a couple stages ahead of you and then bring people behind you that are a stage or two behind you to mentor them. So yeah, I know that was like three different pieces in one, but like, yeah, it's okay to do all of those things and still be a parent. [00:24:52][69.8]
Dago Darezzo: [00:24:56] What comes to mind, just like it's a marathon, it's not a sprint. And just giving grace and not taking a picture in turning to a movie in our minds. So don't take one night that the baby didn't sleep and this baby doesn't sleep for days, I'm a terrible dad. Or just start labeling yourself because you you did something or you did not do something. So just looking, you know, having the the long term or demerits of you and having as a as a movie in our minds and not taking one specific moment and just crushing ourselves for it, if you know what I mean. Like just Yeah, yeah. [00:25:41][45.5]
Joe Ostrem: [00:25:43] Yeah, like the words spoken like, speaking life instead of perpetuating a terrible thing over you yourself as a dad or your kids as kids, it's like. [00:25:53][10.7]
Dago Darezzo: [00:25:54] Exactly. [00:25:54][0.0]
Joe Ostrem: [00:25:54] Yeah, yeah, yeah, totally. [00:25:55][0.8]
Dago Darezzo: [00:25:57] It's going to be okay. [00:25:57][0.4]
Tyler Van Eps: [00:25:59] I had this moment with my brothers recently, and one of my younger brothers just had his first kid about four, four or five months ago. And I was thinking of that, that word of wisdom. And he's in a tough season. He got married a little bit older, had a kid a little bit later, and so has had to, you know, had to learn, you know, had to relearn so many habits and structures in his life. And I think for me, the my biggest advice is that like just as best, your greatest joys are ultimately going to become are ultimately going to come through your heaviest responsibilities or the responsibilities that seem like the biggest challenges in your life. And it's just, it get it can get really easy to run away from those or to get bitter. You get bitter because of the responsibilities that you start to carry with additional kids and additional, you know, all that, all that stuff. And so my my encouragement is like, man like celebrate responsibility, knowing that it's it's refining your character, knowing that it's strengthening you as much as it may feel like it steals from you in a season, steals capacity or steals energy, like it just returns to you in so many more ways than it than it takes from you. So learning, learning to celebrate and just love responsibility is one of the it's one of those things that I'm I'm working on, too, is just, you know, being ready to run to responsibility and just seeing that as a as a blessing rather than a burden. [00:27:44][104.6]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:27:45] Yeah. I've heard, I think this was from my pastor that like when stuff starts to come up within me and come out of me that I don't like, which is actually fairly common. I see stuff that like I don't like, I don't like this. That it's actually a gift because when that stuff surfaces, it's a chance to be humble, to repent, to like, I'm sorry and, and then to, to like, look at and say, well, God has a different path. That's not my identity. What came up is not my identity. I am loved. And I just think marriage brings a wave of that, of like, man, there's stuff coming up that I'm like, I didn't know that was in there. Like, that's not, like I'm not pleased or proud of what I'm displaying as far as the opposite of the fruit of the spirit. But I think the dad life, that is going to, and it's kind of ties that to what you were just saying, Tyler, of like stuff's going to start to bubble up that you're like, man why? Like, why am I being so angry or frustrated or short fuze or this or that and, and to actually give thanks for oh, I'm spotting it and then like to get on my knees and pray about that. I've had things in the last 24 hours with a date night last night that kind of went sideways at the end, that was my fault, now my wife's. I'm just like miscommunication. I'm like, Oh, I can really dwell on that. And this goes to what you were saying, Dago, it was like I could dwell on that or be like, You know what, I'm going to actually, like bring that in prayer and say, I want to grow from that. And actually our next date night approach it with a different level of of my heart being for Michelle. And so that's, that's me jumping into taking what you guys already shared and repackaging it, is what I would share to that dad. And we actually have a fifth chair around the campfire right now. And you guys I know are men of prayer. And I think let's just pray for and we don't have to focus on rookie dad. But just, let's pray for right by, these prayers are for each other. It's also for the dad listening that just needs, need some intercession, need some prayer, and lifted in a spotlight of the Holy Spirit to kind of bring some like clarity, bring some comforts, and so, Tyler, I'll ask you as our host tonight to kick us off and then I'll pray last and let's just each take a turn, short or long, doesn't matter. Let's just pray for a little bit over over these, these dads. [00:30:00][134.9]
Tyler Van Eps: [00:30:00] Yeah. God, thank you that you, you are Father. That you show us that, you reveal that to us, you model that to us. We're grateful for that God. We were grateful that as we pursue you, we get to abide in that. We get to receive that heritage, we get to receive that inheritance from our Heavenly Father. We get to carry that and we get to pass that on. Pass that on to our kids and and pass that inheritance on to other other dads. And yeah, God, I just I pray for the dads out there, I've got a couple in my mind right now that I know, I know need a touch from you. Need a touch from your Holy Spirit. And I just pray refreshing water over them, God. Dad life can feel like a little bit of a desert, sometimes. It can feel like an island, can feel, it can tend towards isolation. So I pray, pray against a spirit of loneliness in those dads. I pray against a spirit of isolation. I pray against a spirit of just the lie that they need to pull themselves up by their bootstraps. They need to try harder with their own energy, their own striving. God, that there would be a supernatural energy and enthusiasm that fills them up, that allows them to pursue that, but ultimately that they would just feel the rest, knowing that you are Father and you care about that so, so deeply. God, you care about the burdens that they carry, that you care about, the visions that they have for their little sons and their daughters, God. And I pray specifically for that one that I'm thinking about right now, God, I just pray that you place a vision before him of the fruitfulness of any and every labor that he sows into his marriage and into his parenting, into his fathering, right now. That you play such a compelling vision of of fruitfulness and freedom and beauty in front of him that just drives him in such a powerful way, God. [00:32:15][134.8]
Dago Darezzo: [00:32:19] Lord, as we sit here on the campfire, I just, just thank you for the gift that we get to be fathers. And we, you know, and I thank you for how you show us by having you as a Father what unconditional love is and that we can live that to and show that to our kids. And as we, you know, for us that are, yeah, we have older kids, young kids, or were just too about to become fathers. The future future dads, the ones who are trying to be dads, I just pray for peace and wisdom and grace, that as they go through the difficult moments they rely on their, on their community, their friends, their spouse, their partners, their parents in a new, special new to just walk through the journey and in parent their and father their kids to become great mothers and fathers as they as they go into their lives and do their own families. So, yeah, just pray for for all the dads out there, Lord. [00:33:38][79.7]
Joe Ostrem: [00:33:42] God, I'm so grateful to be surrounded by such great company of men that are serving you and taking the mantle that you've placed on them to parent their kids and to raise up a generation that follows you. God, I'm so thankful that you have given us glimpses of what relationship looks like. The bride and bridegroom that you talk about in the Bible. Being married is a reflection of that and the love that you have for your children, that you've given that to each of us fathers, to see a small glimpse of what you see in us and how much and how deeply you love us, God. I'm just praying, Lord, that you would give that depth of love for every father that's struggling, that they would see their kids as rewards and not burdens. And how much of a blessing like a shift in the frame of mind of what they see their kids as if they're struggling with this Lord, that the reward that their kids are and the tending of the garden, so to speak, that these kids are that that us as dads are called to to raise up people that follow after you, Lord God. I just pray for that love to be there for the dads, for that love and desire to put in the work, to not give up. And if there is any sort of stumbling or falling, God, I pray that they just get up off the mat and keep running their race and be surrounded. Find community with dads that can help spur them on on the journey of, again, being the best dad and the model of you, God for their kids. And Lord, I just pray for a joy over each of us as we are going into parenting from this time on that we would keep in the forefront that vision of raising up the next generation to serve you, Lord God. And I'm so grateful that I get to be a part of that and really just want to honor you, Lord God, with the talents that you've given me with my four kids. And I pray that every dad would look at their kids as talents that they've been given, that they would be used to glorify you and that they'd be just world changers for the Kingdom, Lord God. [00:36:22][160.2]
Jeff Zaugg: [00:36:24] Yeah, Father, I share gratitude with these brothers. And I'm thankful for the dad who's listening right now. And I'm praying for the dad who's experiencing a storm, some wind and waves that feel like this is not what I expected and I haven't been prepared for this storm. And I pray that you'd remind them in this moment that you are with them in this storm and that you are famous for quieting storms and that if our eyes are on you, we're good to go. So I just pray you would remind all of us dads that we are we are good. We are in good hands. We have a God who's been here before, who sees the whole picture and who speaks, be still. So we choose to worship you instead of worry about those waves. Choose to be a worshiper and be a dad who's showing our families that, man I'm on my knees and I can sing and I can dance and I can bring joy separate from my circumstances. So I just pray that over these dads, worshipers, prayer warriors, strength because, man, we've got you by our side. We're serving you and you say, be still. So thank you for this time. Thank you for these guys listening, these dads listening and bless them with your heart for their kids. In Jesus name, Amen. Thank you so much for being a part of this conversation, episode 292 of DadAwesome. Thank you to Joe, Dago and Tyler for just bringing their full hearts to this chat. And I don't think this will be the last time that we circle around and use a campfire as a place to record conversations that are helpful to all the dads out there. So thanks for listening, guys. The show notes, the conversation links are going to be at dadawesome.org/292. I mentioned earlier that if you guys check out the new website dadawesome.org, check it out, send me some feedback. what do you love? What's confusing? Of course it's a it's a website so we can make changes, so your feedback is a massive jeff@dadawesome.org is my email address. Or you can send me an Instagram message or a text and man, your feedback is helpful. Also you sharing DadAwesome with others. It's a perfect, we believe that the new DadAwesome website is the perfect, Hey, pass this along. Text it to a few other buddies saying Hey, hopefully this will be helpful. So our prayer is that it's a helpful resource, it's not just check out us and what we're doing, but we feature over 30 other fatherhood ministries and tons of resources and over 70 resources are in the resource catalog, check that out too. If you realize, man, you're missing something, you got to know about this, send us other resources that we should be featuring. We would love your feedback on that. So guys, thanks for listening this week. Thank you for being a DadAwesome. Have a great week. [00:36:24][0.0]
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