74 | JOY & Unpacking the Proximity Principle - Fruits Week 2 (Ken Coleman)
https://youtu.be/Tql-MctY3GkKen Coleman joins us for part 2 of our summer 9-part series on the Fruit Of The Spirit. Ken is a career expert, best-selling author of "The Proximity Principle" and national radio host of "The Ken Coleman Show". Pulling from his own personal struggles, missed opportunities and career successes, Coleman helps people discover what they were born to do and provides practical steps to make their dream job a reality.
Conversation Notes:
- (4:55) Living a purposeful life through our work - we were all created to do work that matters
- (5:24) The Proximity Principle book
- (5:55) Passions for leadership tie into principles of being a dad
- (6:30) Taking his kids with him on speaking trips
- (7:13) We want our kids to see us invite people into our home
- (6:20) Things he loves to do with his kids
- (8:08) There is a lot of togetherness. We're a close knit group
- (8:35) Dad advice - you’re going to need to own what you did wrong and say sorry. Many times. This will do more for your relationship with your kids.
- (8:50) Kids need to see their father ask for forgiveness.
- (10:30) Painful moment - he thought he was helping his son by pushing him, but was actually pushing him away.
- (13:29) Small rhythms have big long-term impact - parenting for strengths.
- (14:15) "Use what you do best to do what you love to do most... That's the sweet spot. That's the calling of God"
- (14:42) Help our kids be self-aware adults - do you know who you are?
- (15:15) Psalm 139 - you knit me together in my mothers womb. Talent and passion.
- (15:35) Help our kids understand their role to the father and their role in this world.
- (16:18) The power of intentional questions - you’ll get more out of them if you ask a question vs tell them.
- (19:33) Why is joy important for dads and kids?
- (19:40) Difference between happiness and joy
- (20:18) Joy comes in the morning (Psalm 30:5)
- (22:00) Other tools to help kids step into joy: help them understand the journey of faith.
- (22:50) That moment of pain needs to be put in greater context of the bigger broader story.
- (24:35) The Proximity Principle - “in order to do what I want to do I’ve got to be around people that are doing it in places that it is happening”
- (25:55) In order to be a great dad I need to be around great dads and be in places where great dads are hanging out
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- (28:14) Assess the peers you’re hanging out with.
- (28:50) Don’t do dad life alone. Get around other dads who are ahead of you to ask advice.
- (29:18) Analogy: Training for a race - running with people a little pace ahead helps us to go farther. You don’t want to be the fastest guy in the group.
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Links:
The Proximity Principle: The Proven Strategy That Will Lead to a Career You LoveOne Question: Life-Changing Answers from Today's Leading VoicesThe Ken Coleman ShowKen's TwitterKen's Instagram Ken OnlineKen's Facebook